Human costs of concealing a dementia diagnosis

Sometimes, even after a doctor has confirmed that a patient has an irreversible dementia, the doctor may not tell the patient or family about it, thinking there is no cure, so nothing can be done, why upset the family unnecessarily? The note below expresses my view on this. (I am not talking of situations where diagnosis is delayed because some doctors do not know enough about dementia, which is a vast topic of a different nature)

Doctors sometimes debate on whether or not they should inform patients / their families that the patient has an irreversible dementia. Some feel that since there is no cure for dementia there is no point in communicating the diagnosis (they feel it would be disheartening, or pointless). Others are confused on what is right (to tell or not tell).

Here’s a fact worth considering: knowing a diagnosis doesn’t just enable a patient to get medical treatment; it also helps everyone concerned to see the patient’s behaviour and deterioration in the proper context and make changes to improve the overall quality of life.

The fact is that the patient may be worried about what is happening to his/ her memory, abilities, emotions; the patient may be scared, isolated, angry, unable to cope.

The fact is that the behaviour of dementia patients, if not understood, often also bewilders and hurts people around the patient. Families undergo emotional pain and conflict. They sometimes even split up or fight legal cases because the patient misunderstands/ forgets things, says wrong things, flings accusations, takes wrong decisions, gets violent, or even acts in an uninhibited or “vulgar” way. Such painful situations could have been avoided if family members had realized that the behaviour was because of a dementing disease. Family fortunes are sometimes squandered because families, unaware of the dementia, let the patient take major decisions.

Essentially, not knowing that the patient has dementia means that families continue their old ways of interacting with the patient, which often makes problems worse for everyone concerned.

Many families feel very upset when they realize later that their doctor had known about, but chosen to conceal the dementia diagnosis. Family members deeply regret years wasted in bitterness and bewilderment which knowledge about dementia would have reduced; they continue to feel guilt about things they said or didn’t say, things they did or didn’t do, for years after the patient’s demise.

On the other hand, families aware of the diagnosis are able to change their ways of talking to and helping the patient. They are able to arrange things so that they and the patient can enjoy what is still possible rather than only notice the reduction in capabilities. All this improves the quality of life of the patient and the family, even if the underlying dementing disease cannot be cured.

Families aware of the diagnosis are also able to re-arrange their lives to minimize the impact of dementia caregiving on their other responsibilities. They can plan for the caregiving required across years by rearranging business and personal commitments, relocating their home, changing jobs, deciding how to share work with siblings, etc.

Then, of course, let us consider the patients’ right to know, especially as they may be worried by what is happening to them. A lot of patients diagnosed early have talked of the sheer relief of knowing that there was a reason they were facing the problems, that merely knowing a diagnosis reduces their stress and makes them more capable of handling things, even if there was no medical relief possible for their form of dementia. They feel better off knowing the diagnosis though they may not always remember it (thanks to dementia).

I believe the debate on whether doctors should reveal the dementia diagnosis is not confined to India, it exists in other countries too. Perhaps some doctors don’t understand the human cost of their silence about the diagnosis; to these doctors, if there is no medicine, there is no point telling people of the problem. Their concern centres on only the medical aspect, and they view the debate of whether to tell or not as “academic.”

Currently, even if the doctor has figured out that a patient has an irreversible form of dementia, the doctor may or may not tell the family; the concealing or revealing of the diagnosis depends on the individual doctor’s conviction about revealing the diagnosis, and how knowledgeable and sensitive the doctor is about problems beyond the ones medicines can solve. The problems of living with dementia, so to say. Not just the academic listing of symptoms, but the facing of the problems in real life. Currently, go to one doctor and you will get appropriate information and support; go to another, and you may hear something wishy-washy about how such problems happen to some people when they age.

Ideally, it would be great if patients and families were confident of some sort of minimal level of information and support from doctors, regardless of the doctor’s personal convictions.

From what I remember, some decades ago, there was a similar reluctance amongst many doctors regarding revealing a “cancer” diagnosis. That has changed, possibly because cancer has been “de-demonized”.

Regarding dementia: maybe if many patients and families describe how knowing the diagnosis improved their quality of life significantly (even though dementia cannot be cured), more doctors will appreciate that patients and families are stakeholders who need to know what is happening. They may evolve appropriate ways to convey the diagnosis and related information, discuss these, refine them. And maybe even create, as a community, suitable guidance that all doctors will conform to.

Definitely the patients and famililes would be better off for it.

This is my opinion; I’d love to hear your views.

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